So, an ordinary Russian man:
Are there any serious problems at Russian men? Many of them abuse alcohol - that is the main reason for divorce in them. In some cases, men do not want to help in housekeeping (to cook, clean the house). Also, some of them dismissive of child-rearing, when compared with Western men (of course, it applies only to some people).
Russian men are very different, their character traits are also unique and varied; and yet most of them are very nice people.
Now we need to consider a very important quality in Russian relations - the concept of some union, which could be called "togetherness". What does it mean? Togetherness means that lovers at Russians always act together, as a couple. All things most often are discussed and made together: vacation at sea, going to a cinema or a concert. In other cultures men often play golf, drink beer with friends, as a wife goes shopping or to her girlfriends.
At Russian there also are moments, like the above (and it is good); but most of the time couples organize their cultural activities together. Keep in mind: Russian men are usually interested in their work and actions of their wives. People in the West are more independent, many couples are poorly informed about their partner’s work of friends. The Russian relations are other: many couples often talk on the phone, calling to each other even at work several times per day (because they "have missed").
Well, of course - in Russia there also are failed marriages, as elsewhere in the world. However, the characteristic feature of Russian relations is the "togetherness" notion, as an ideal of marriage relationships. Remember this feature and let it help you to build a happy relationship with a Russian partner!
Good clothes are very important for Russians, especially for women (although men are not far behind). You should know that shorts and all kinds of T-shirts are usually totally inappropriate to walk in public (except beach). Jeans are considered inappropriate too, although today jeans and T-shirts wear in city almost all Russian young people.
And yet, going to a restaurant, movie or theater is better to wear other clothing. Most men in Russia (and Ukraine) wear long pants, shirt and shoes. For Russians labels or design are not so important; the main thing - that the clothes looked beautiful and pleasing to the eyes. Very common at Russian men are dark clothes (mostly, gray and black).
The culture of any country has some common behavior patterns, considering as the standard of courtesy and which are commonly used in public. In Russia, you can highlight the following points:
Russian culture is very different from many Western cultures. We propose to consider what should be done to avoid unpleasant mistakes and get the real pleasure of communicating with the Russian guy, and probably make him a man of your destiny! If you really want to communicate with a Russian, follow our simple step by step guide:
When the Russians welcome a girl for the first time, they have taken just shake hands, no kissing on the cheek. You should welcome your Russian guy with pleasant handshake, looking him straight in the eyes - thus you’ll show your openness and honesty.
Dress appropriately, going on a first date. This means that your dress style should be pleasant but look not too provocatively. On Russian dating accepted that a man brought to a girl flowers (especially if it's a first date). Another important fact: Russians always give an odd number of flowers in the bouquet because even (pair) number is used only for funerals. This is due to national traditions and superstitions.
Many Russian men, as before, prefer to behave like knights: they open doors their woman, help to put off her coat, bring a heavy bag and other things. You should be prepared for such an attitude, when a man so gallantly and humanly heat refers to a woman.
In many West countries women behave independently and usually always share their account with men; but in Russia it is not so - men pay instead of their women. If you’ll come to a restaurant with a Russian guy, you do not have to pay for your food - he will do it for you. Married Russian pairs most often also do everything together. If in a Russian family both spouses work, all the costs and the entire family budget are divided equally too, though each of them has also their own money.
Russian men like controlling and taking care of almost everything, including their relationship. Don’t be afraid - women have full voting rights; simply you’ll be taken care about just the same with gallantry.
The big problem will be if you do not know the language at all. It is the language barrier (except cultural differences) is the most common cause of failures in personal relationships. If you want to communicate with a Russian guy, it’s very important for you to speak Russian even a little. Only thus you can dramatically increase your chances and build truly successful relationships with a Russian man.
Your relationships have been successful and you decided to marry a Russian. What can you expect from such a marriage? First of all, your marriage will be passionate and full of love; you’ll get strong emotions and (we hope) a happy relationship for life. A lot of time you’ll have to spend together, especially at first. Of course, you’ll have enough time on communication with your friends and family, and just to be alone.
In general, Russian couples spend together more often, than it is accepted in the West. A Russian man will work hard to create a family prosperity and so that you were happy. He will seek to have a nice house, nice car, and all the best, one can provide for his family. Be prepared for all this, marrying a Russian or Ukrainian men from the former Soviet Union.Return from USSR Men to homepage